what was your experience living in a college dorm, I have some concerns?

Question

I am going to be moving on campus in a dorm in a few weeks.

Here are my concerns.

Loud/noisy/dirty/rude roomates.
Other people having access to my stuff/stealing/borrowing/not respecting boundaries
Having to share a bathroom with 4 people

What was your college dorm experience? Do you have any tips or ways to approach the situation?

Answer 1

Well I only live with one person, but I do live in a college dorm. Here are the good and bad things I've experienced thus far:



Good: you can fill out s roommate survey to get matched with someone youll probably like (unless it's too late for you to do the survey?) OR you can choose someone, you're getting a huge part of the college experience, it can be a lot of fun/great conversations, they can be very helpful (ie: when I have cramps, my roommate will get me pain meds), you make friends with your whole floor and it's like a giant slumber party everyday sometimes, someone to do homework with

Bad: my roommate is SO nosy (always asking me what my phone conversations are about,always asking where I'm going or where I went or what I'm doing in the computer), she cleans way too much (once a week is enough but everyday is excessive), she talks too much (even if I'm doing my homework), she spends way too much time decorsting, sometimes I just wanna be by myself but I can't be

Answer 2

I lived in a dorm for all four years of my undergrad and worked as a residence hall staffer for three of those years, so I am not only familiar with my own experience, but all of the problems of other people and their roommates.



My experience with a roommate: My undergrad had a super intensive housing form that went into your personality and a bit of your life history, not just the generic questions of "do you smoke" and "when do you sleep." Student staff members also made housing placements and pairings for first-year students (I did that one year), so they knew how to interpret statements and preferences that students would make on these forms. My roommate and I were polar opposites on paper, but we are best friends now, mostly because we communicated early about our rooming situation. We're both pretty clean, don't stay up too late, don't listen to music super loud, don't bring significant others back, and don't really drink / use drugs, which prevents late-night vomiting and other issues. I think generally speaking, as long as you talk about these things, any reasonable person will follow the agreed-upon guidelines, and that conversation will provide a basis for a room change if you're with an unreasonable person. I also shared a gender neutral bathroom with 6-8 people depending on which year of my undergrad we're talking about; I think this can definitely be an issue in terms of cleanliness... You just kind of have to communicate early on about that as well. People with long hair need to clean it up, no sex in the shower, etc. Again, reasonable people will agree to these things.



My experience mediating other people's housing problems: In my experience, stealing from roommates is very rare. As long as you keep track of valuables, it's usually not an issue. The only time I dealt with a chronic problem was when someone was stealing someone else's marijuana, which is illegal in the first place. The biggest problem areas are usually (a) space division (it should be 50-50, I don't know why some people feel differently), (b) significant others / hook-ups (just talk early about this), and (c) throwing parties in the room (again, communicate early about this). It sounds repetitive, but when people didn't talk about or didn't take seriously early conversations about boundaries and standards, that contributed to 90% of the problems. Certainly unreasonable people played a role too; some people just don't get along with shared living spaces, but honestly most people should (and do) acclimate to it, even if they hadn't shared a room with someone before (I hadn't). Some schools have things like roommate contracts so there's a physical copy of your agreements; it's not a bad idea to do this even if there isn't a formal one.

Answer 3

My daughter was in Honor college and was able to dorm in the Honors dorm. I believe that made a world of difference. Students had to maintain a high GPA. She never had a problem with stealing.

Her freshman room mate and her where a world apart. They were never friends, but the co existed. They were respectful of each other.

You need to communicate and compromise. Her dorm had a meeting at the start of the year and had them make contracts. Roommates where encouraged to write out expectations and room rules. Little stuff like trash out everyday. But stuff like no over night guests. Her dorm came with a drawer that locked. She kept bank documents, paper work, cash in there.

Her sophomore year her room mate had bad OCD. My daughter had to make sure all common areas were always clean and straight. Her roommate had to understand if my daughter's bed was unmade or her desk full of crap, that was her right and she just needed to deal with it.

My son had one room mate he never saw. One that dropped out. One that was an international student and taught him how to cook dishes from his country. My son had an old army footlocker that he put all documents, money, personal and expensive stuff. It had a lock on it.



Get rules for your room written out

Expectations discussed

Communicate. Talk over problems . Get your RA to mediate.

Respect each other - be polite

Compromise- give a little, take a little



A part of college is learning to get along with others - that aren't your friend, you don't like, that are different than you- differnt race, religion, fianacial background. You will be out in the work force with people different than you.

Answer 4

get a lock box for what valuables you do have. But being a freshmen--and the typical age, I'd imagine you are going to leave your really valuable stuff with your parents/guardians. The dorm rooms are not huge to begin with--you only get at least half the room. Being a good roommate is your responsibility too.



I never met my very first roommate before we were assigned--and even though she herself was a party animal, she was personally extremely considerate of our room/our space. She flunked out unfortunately and I did not continue living with her. But I really liked her.



Ironically a roommate who demographically was like me turned out to be the horrible person. She stole property, would hang up on my parents...etc when they called, Eventually the local police did arrest her on forgery.



You'd be very surprised who you end up getting along--and not getting along with as roommates in college.

Answer 5

Tip number one is to act like an adult.



Once you get there, don't be caught up in being the nice guy, the passive, or not offending anyone. Immediately demand a suite meeting to establish rules. I STRONGLY encourage quiet hours, noise rules, company rules, cooking rules (if you have access to a kitchen, hot plate, or microwave), and cleaning rules.



As rules are established, THEN you can make friends and be nicer. I mean, don't be rude to your suite mates, but don't fall into the non-offensive passive trap. If you have things that worry you, BRING THEM UP immediately - if you don't, it will fester and you will be miserable.



Noise was always a big deal to me. As was privacy. You may have other hot buttons - don't be afraid to address them immediately.

Answer 6

ving in a college dorm, I have some concerns? Roman Catholic sign of the cross is upside down, done with five fingers instead of three, is done from left to right instead of right to left, etc. (basically inviting demons). Antichrist's Third Temple will have 8 chambers: a chamber per main religion; antichrist will be crowned in this temple; during crowning, he won't read the "belief prayer" correctly (rejecting Christ and acknowledging himself); when he will take his gloves off to make sign of the cross incorrectly (just for show), many people will see his big nails and will reject him; Patriarch (who will be crowning him) will say that this is the antichrist; antichrist will kill him. Also, antichrist will kill those priests who disagree with him at the 8th "wolf" Council; others will worship him when a bird dies at his feet. Roman Catholics, Satanists, and Buddhists use the same mudras; if you see these mudras on an icon, then it's not Orthodox icon; Orthodox icon has IC XC symbol (Jesus Christ). Roman Catholics pay drunks and prostitutes to pose for icons; passions of drunks and prostitutes transfer to those who pray to these images. Normal Orthodox icons are inspired by the Holy Spirit. Gaad in Ruski = Satan; hence, Americans = blasphemers because they always say: "Oh, my god!". Santa (word for Saint in Satanic languages) = Satan; hence, Spanish + Italian + Portuguese = blasphemers. Anathema to Satanic languages; triple anathema. Learn Church Slavonic; no curses in it; curses = prayer to Satan. All religions except Orthodoxy worship Satan. On bread for communion: IC XC NIKA (Jesus Christ Conquers) plus cross = Orthodox; hexagram plus Dusha Maya = antichrist. Jews and Muslims pray head down (either standing, bowing, or kneeling); this is Satanic prayer. Orthodox look into the eyes of icon; energy goes their way; they get healed; head and shoulders come together to reject Satan slowly and then fast to normal showing allegiance to Christ and not the devil. Hands cannot be on groin or behind back; either put them crossing each other on chest (right over left) or just by your sides. Legs together so that a demon doesn't run underneath your legs. Clergy who will not "put Buddhist icons and serve antichrist's blood" will be killed; only 7 churches will be left as Pelageya of Ryazan predicted. In 2006 and at other meetings, fake patriarchs and bishops signed a bunch of documents betraying Orthodoxy by saying that all religions worship the same Supreme Being; triple anathema; don't let heretics tell you what to do. America will be last country to switch to Euro. Three big earthquakes will shake the three superpowers; 1st big earthquake in Russia; 2nd (bigger one) in China; 3rd (biggest of the three) will be in America. NATO will nuke Ukraine to blame Russia for it; then NATO will nuke Russia from Scandinavia. China will attack Russia; but will not get past Ural Mountains; bio-genetic weapon will be used against Chinese soldiers (they will run back to China and hide in closets in fear) and weather weapon will freeze Siberia to - 200 Celcius; stadium-size chunks of unmeltable ice will fall from the lower sky (because when rockets go into higher sky they bring this ice down to lower sky). Russia will destroy Turkey and America. China will have a hole across the whole country to the abyss (because of another super weapon used to stop Chinese aggression); radiation from this hole will be massive; Chinese will try to keep quiet about it; a lot of people will fall into this hole.

Scientists don't see dinosaurs because of radiation. Only Eurasia and Alaska (both without coasts) will remain after demons blow up Antarctica (which surrounds the flat earth) and Greenland melts. Move to Ural Mountains or inland Alaska. Sionists wanted war between Russia and Germany from June 11th to October 11th on their holidays because (666 times 3)+(6 times 3) = 2016 (in their twisted logic).

Tube people = demons. Clones = demons. Human costumes that demons wear = demons. Dinosaurs and 666ed people have triple stranded DNA; normal person can't swallow 666ed food (designed for 666ed people). Demons live inside clones. Bacteriologist Alexandre Yersin (who discovered Bubonic plague) is depicted on the Shroud of Turin. There is another shroud (Shroud of Milan) on which blasphemer Yosef (who was crucified on a pole in 1066 AD) is depicted. Menachem Mendel Schneerson, Lenin (el=deity in Hebrew, nine = no in German; so, when chanted repeatedly is blasphemy against the Creator), and Yosef were possessed by Azazel; now, Rico Cortes is possessed by Azazel.

WW3 happens; 7% of people will be left; after people are tired of war, they will elect the antichrist as one world leader; don't vote. ISIS stands for Israeli Secret Intelligence Service. Next false flag: Statue of Liberty in order to attack Iran; one big shake, one giant step forward, one giant collapse. Move away from coasts as nukes will go off in the ocean (at where tectonic plates meet; result: megatsunamis 1km high).

Wear natural clothing so that if a bomb goes off it won't stick to the body as fast as synthetic clothes. All metal will be burned for fuel; so, save knives, crowbars, shovels, wood-burning stoves, etc. Also, save cloth/fabric/textile to cover the wounds and diseases.

Eat natural food because nanochips, cells of aborted fetuses, bug DNA, and other poisons are in food that is commonly sold; reject vaccines, medical care, medicine, etc. because nanochips are administered thru IVs, implants, fillings, etc. If 1000-1500 nanochips are in your right hand, then you can't make proper Orthodox sign of the cross with the right hand; last mercy for you then will be to cut the hand off.

Seraphim of Sarov and Sergiy of Radonezh will be resurrected after WW3 for a short time; Seraphim of Sarov will show the new Ruski Tsar who will fight the antichrist for about 2 years and 8 months. Those who go see Seraphim of Sarov will be healed of their infirmities/illnesses/sicknesses/ diseases; if you want to see him then, hurry because he won't stay longer than a few weeks.

Earth is flat; stands on 3 pillars (the Most Holy Trinity); pillars stand on water at zero Kelvin. Zodiac is planetary prison of demons; don't believe in horoscopes or you'll exhibit the traits of the trapped demons. Most thoughts and dreams are from demons; demons never do good. Sleep fully clothed; pray the Jesus prayer. Pray to your guardian angel to have normal sleep.

Humans were created about 7525 years ago. Ruski Orthodox Christian Vyacheslav Krasheninnikov was the last prophet before Enoch and Elijah return to preach against the antichrist.

Birds participate in time creation. It's a sin to kill birds. Dinosaurs live under our level. They will get out through sinkholes and lakes. To kill them, go for their nerves. Save the birds; but kill the dinosaurs. First dinosaur will come out of Volga River in Russia.

Demons grow human skin (from a sample taken during abduction) and put it on so as to look like us. Demons will invite people to be healed inside their UFOs; those who go will be like zombies after. Gov't provides demons with diamonds and allows demons to abduct people. If you're being abducted, slowly pray the Jesus prayer.



Don't panic. Demons use diamonds and souls to power their UFO craft. The bigger the diamond, the more it lasts. Demons have 4 UFO bases: 1)Moon 2)Inside fake mountain Kailash in Tibet 3)In lake Baikal in Russia 4)In Atlantis which is underneath the Mariana Trench in Pacific Ocean. There are no aliens. Nobody lives on other planets.

Airplanes that go down are hit by demons because they need the airspace to fight Jesus. Antichrist is pale with red eyes. He's possessed by Satan since he's 12 years old. He flies very fast; deceived people will say that "Christ is here; Christ is there". Sometimes, he wears blue robe over left shoulder while red robe is underneath. He wears gloves to hide long nails. He's surrounded by demons who appear as angels of light. Antichrist will trick people to believe that he can do mountain moving and resurrection (using holograms); fire from the sky is easy (considering the gases from pollution in the atmosphere).

Don't go into a UFO to be healed by demons. Green 666 is given by isotope rays on wrist or forehead when people stretch hands to receive small plastic grey card with no name on it (World Passport). Police will microchip and isotope ray people on the highways. Microchipped people will be influenced by computers to take grey plastic card; but when they do, 666 is given. Food stores will isotope ray people too. Antichrist will also release prisoners to mark people. Reject 666 at all cost because it leads to permanent hell.

If you're about to be marked, pray the Jesus prayer. Hide with Orthodox Christians to escape 666; leave all electronics behind so that antichrist's minions can't track you. Burn documents because they're from Satan. Give to charity in the name of Archangel Michael; he rescues people from temporary hell twice a year (or brings them up a level, that is, to a level with less punishment; eventually, people are freed). Feed the pigeons; when pigeons bow down, people are saved from temporary hell. Forgive me.



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Answer 7

Do not go to college dorms because they are hellholes.

Answer 8

I had my own en suite room at Oxford. It's normal here. Are you foreign?