I Feel Like a Failure?

Question

I am almost 23 years old, and I failed my nursing boards for the second time. It seems like everyone else in my class passed the first time and are now enjoying their lives. I am at a loss, and I feel like I can't move on with mine. So now I have a Bachelors of Science in Nursing degree and I am not an RN yet. I feel like a total failure. I am just wondering if anyone knows of people who are in my same boat, or maybe know of anyone in another field with the same problem?

Answer 1

It happens, less so if you were educated in the US, but it happens. Based on your scores you can tell what areas you need to work on. My undergraduate Nursing classes were graded heavily on multiple choice questions to prepare us for the Boards. I had to learn how to take tests, eliminating answers and narrowing it down to two choices. You have to be careful not to read into the questions. If you get a question about a guy in end stage liver disease you would imagine that the guy has a lot of ascites and may be bleeding. But if the question doesn't list these problems then you don't take them into account.



Based on the Boards statistics many foreign educated Nurses have trouble passing the Boards. Also, people that fail the Boards the first time have a high failure rate on the second try. You need to break this down and figure out where you went wrong. Did you not study enough? Did you take a class? If not, you need to look into one. What were you using to study? NCLEX review books? If not, get them.



You are not a failure. You have a college degree. I've been an RN for over twenty years. There have been many challenges, I've worked through a lot of stuff. How you handle this failure will help shape how you handle future failures, yes, you will fail at times as an RN, there is a steep learning curve, that's just the way it is...just keep plugging away and you will be able to pass.

Answer 2

It doesn't matter what the others are doing right now. And you're not a failure, you just failed an exam. What you need to do now is to analyze why you failed, and fix those problems.



Simply preparing in the same way again for the next time is not a good idea. You should try to assess in which areas you did well, or on which types of questions, and in which areas / on which types of questions you didn't, and then work on your weaknesses. Set a timetable to make sure that you have enough time to review each topic, and also enough time to carry out a one-hour practice exam session each day.

Answer 3

Dude there is a lot of people like you.



George Bush - he was a C student throughout his high school years, somehow got into Yale because that's where his father went and was a B-C student. And now look, he's the suckiest president of the most popular, richest country (well at least we used to be) in the world.



John Jacob Astor - america's first millionaire. HS Drop out. He died on the titanic, though.



Ann Bieler - she founded Antie Ann's pretzels and is a multi-milllionaire.



Charles Dickens - famous author. He dropped out in elementary school.



Thomas Edison - inventor. He was dyslexic and had a problem in school. I think he also dropped out before high school.



Albert Einstein - got dropped out of college and is now the smartest guy that walked the planet



Issac Newton - was next to nothing in his college year and now invented gravitational laws



Benjamin Franklin had less than 2 years of formal education. Now he's on the $100 bill and one of america's founding fathers.



There's a whole list here:



http://www.angelfire.com/stars4/lists/dr…



I hope this helps and...



Thanks,

Yatish.

Answer 4

Failure is a dress rehearsal for success. (Fortune cookie wisdom!)



I have attempted the military (discharged), studying computer servicing/information technology and attempting to find work (unsuccessful), art school (dropped out after 3 years, because I had so much moral support, but I was miserable and finally got out of what I was only doing for other people and not myself), and am now still in that place in life where I don't quite know what to do with the life I've been given. On top of that, I really ****** up enrolling in the art school, because now I'm in way over my head in massive student loan debt and have to keep deferring payments because I have no job to afford them.



But I still am not giving up on remaining open to whatever I find to get into, that's the main idea, is to sometimes branch out of our comfort zone and try a new thing when all of the rest have just sort of fizzled out. That new thing might have the potential to be what works for us.



Some things we pursue simply aren't meant to be, or on the flip side, require a little bit of patience and a hell of a lot of diligence/discipline to achieve our goals. Take a step back and analyze the situation, as I did in art school, am I really doing this for me to be happy or for other people to be happy? In the end, when it comes to what you do with your life, ALL that matters is if it satisfies you.

Answer 5

Well youre only 23 so youve got a lot of time to find your niche. Im only 18 and i kinda feel like a failure because everyone i know is going to college and im not able to. But i do do more creative things. Just find your skills. and youll only fail if you never try or quit

Answer 6

you still have 3 years to waste.

Answer 7

maybe its not the right thing for you to do